I can be quite pessimistic.
If I don’t make the active decision to try to be optimistic, it’s easy for me to see the negative more than the positive.
In the last few months, I have been working hard on nurturing my inner optimist. I know she’s in there; she’s a dreamer, an idealist, and she wants to come out and enjoy life.
My progress has been good so far. I’m much better at shifting my focus from the bad stuff to the good stuff; at encouraging my feelings of hope for the future rather than dwelling on the “what-ifs”. This has, of course, come from a huge amount of personal effort, but I’m also fortunate to have a strong support system around me.
Obviously, I still have room to grow. I’m not optimistic 24/7 and I don’t think I ever will be – or is that just my pessimism talking…?
No, I think it’s okay.
We don’t necessarily need to be optimistic 24/7. In fact, I’ve written about toxic positivity before. It’s okay to feel “negative” or unpleasant feelings – to feel doubt or worry – it’s all just part of being human.
The important part is learning how to let ourselves feel those feelings without having them take over our lives and keep us from doing what makes us happy.
That being said, throughout my journey towards increased optimism, I still allow myself to moan about a few relatively inconsequential annoyances; things that really don’t matter in the grand scheme of things, but they bug me and it doesn’t hurt to complain about them.
Sometimes things are just annoying, and that’s okay.
#1. When people don’t replace the empty toilet roll
I get really annoyed when people leave an empty toilet roll on the holder! To me, it smacks of “I’m alright and someone else will sort it”.
Also, I don’t know what’s worse: leaving the holder completely empty, or leaving a new toilet roll ON TOP of the holder but not properly ON it. Honestly, the audacity.
Oh and another thing – if you leave one sheet of toilet paper on the roll so you don’t tEcHNiCaLLy have to replace the roll, you’re a bellend. (Yes, I’m talking to you, Dad!)
#2. One-uppers on Twitter
We’ve all encountered them; the people who latch onto your tweets purely to emphasise that they are either “better” than you, or, if you’re talking about a bad situation, that they have it worse than you and you should “quit complaining” and “feel lucky it’s not worse”.
I can’t be doing with the one-upmanship, particularly when the interjection is unsolicited and with the intention of dragging the OP down or making them feel bad for talking about their own experiences.
By all means, offer support and solidarity by sharing your related experiences. But if you’re deliberately making someone else’s post about you, with the aim of detracting from their success or their struggle, then it’s gonna be a no from me.
#3. YouTube ads
Before you come for me, yes I’m aware that ads let content creators monetise and maintain their channels. I get it.
But I’ve noticed recently that lots of videos on YouTube are now absolutely saturated with ads, to the point that there is more ad-time than actual content-time.
The other week, I watched an 11-minute video that included five ad breaks, each break with two ads in a row, AND some of those ads were unskippable.
Honestly, the video content itself wasn’t even that good, so I was annoyed that I stuck with it through the many, many ads.
I think one of the most annoying things about this is that the ads aren’t even varied – they’re so repetitive. If I watch a few YouTube videos I’ll probably see the same couple of ads multiple times.
Rather than inspiring me to explore the product or service to which the ad relates, it actually puts me off. I’m so irritated by the persistent repetition that I often deliberately avoid the offending company out of pure spite. Maybe that’s me being petty, but hey, it is what it is.
#4. Music snobbery
I get irritated by music snobbery because it all centres around this vague notion of being “cool”. You find out that your friend likes listening to cheesy 90s pop music, or that they can’t name every single song off a band’s six albums, and you decide that’s a good enough reason to, at best, quietly judge them, and at worst, openly mock them. Dick move, tbh.
You don’t get a gold star for being super into a specific type of music to the exclusion of all others and it certainly isn’t something to act high and mighty about. You enjoy certain music – cool. How about we just let people enjoy their own things and not be twat about it? That would be neat.
Recently I’ve been getting a ridiculous number of messages from people trying to recruit me into their “team” for whatever MLM they’re currently involved in.
Let me be perfectly clear: MLM is a euphemism for pyramid scheme. Whether you’re conscious of it or not, you’re trying to recruit people into a pyramid scheme.
I feel like the increase in messages may be down to COVID-19 and the fact that many people have lost their jobs. This is just speculation, by the way, but I think it’s likely to be at least a factor.
I genuinely feel awful for anyone who has lost their job (due to COVID or otherwise) and I totally understand the desperate need to find another source of income. However, my sympathy ends when you try to rope in other people.
MLMs are a scam. They only work for a handful of people who get to sit at the top of the pyramid while everyone else scrambles around, bombarding their friends and family with endless sales pitches and spending their own money to buy stock to meet their quota, most of which ends up sitting in their house, unsold.
Anyway, my point is, I’m quite open about my opinion on MLMs, yet people persist in trying to recruit me. As I mentioned on Twitter, my polite, apologetic refusals are becoming a little less tactful with each attempt…
So there we have it – thanks for letting me have my little rants there!
Optimism is great, but sometimes we all need to blow off some steam and unleash our mild annoyances – a mini-rant about something relatively inconsequential is good for the soul, in my opinion!
What mildly annoys you? Let me know in the comments!