This post was inspired by Ruth In Revolt’s Positive Affirmation post – thanks, Ruth!
One of the struggles of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a lack of sense of identity and low self-esteem.
One of the ways I try to tackle this is by telling myself positive affirmations, and I thought I would share some of them with you today.
Because I have BPD, I am constantly at war with my internal critic. Unfortunately, this internal critic is loud, persistent, and intensely negative. It needs to be consistently battled, so here are some of the positive affirmations I try to use to boost my self-esteem and remind myself that I am not the horrible person BPD wants to make me think I am.
I am a good person
This is the top one because my main area of negative self-talk surrounds being an inherently bad person. I need to remind myself that whilst I have made mistakes, I am only human, and my mistakes don’t make me a bad person.
I am worthy of love
Another element of BPD is unstable relationships, and boy, have I had some unstable relationships; the result of which is an ingrained belief that I am somehow not worthy of being loved. This affirmation is to remind me that despite being treated poorly in the past, I am worthy of love, even if I haven’t found it yet.
I am resilient
When my moods are cycling rapidly, I can feel totally incompetent and dependent on others to get me through. This affirmation reminds me that whilst others can support (and have supported) me, it is essentially me that gets myself through the hard times – no one can do (or has done) it for me. I am resilient.
I have survived the worst days of my life
On the days when BPD sends me into a spiral, it can be hard to believe that I am going to survive the low. This affirmation reminds me that I have survived all the other lows, and gives me hope that I can survive the current one.
I have a future
On the lowest of low days, it’s difficult for me to believe that I have a future – I can’t see past the moment. So I use this affirmation to remind myself that this moment is temporary and I do have a future – a good one, at that.
I have a purpose
Leading on from the last point, not being able to see a future for myself links strongly to feeling like I haven’t got a purpose in life. This affirmation reminds me that I do have a purpose, and I often use this one alongside listing the things that I like about myself or the things that I’m good at, in order to solidify the affirmation.
Do you use positive affirmations? If yes, which ones? Let me know in the comments.